Fat people are often supported in hating their bodies, in starving themselves, in engaging in unsafe exercise and in seeking out weight loss by any means necessary. A thin person who does these things is considered mentally ill. A fat person who does these things is redeemed by them. This is why our culture has no concept of a fat person who also has an eating disorder. If you’re fat, it’s not an ED — it’s a lifestyle change.
I was introduced to this tumblr meme by lucypaw. I’m embarrassed by my voice but I promised her I’d post it!
Tootsie Roll, comfortable, orange, both, tour, toilet, sure, Nevada, roof, white, chocolate, route, drawer, coupon, Ramen noodles, pecan, caramel, milk, again, Carribean, wash, New Orleans, crayon, envelope, coffee, Reece’s Pieces, data.
Reblogged because I have heard all of these things, related to all of my different health problems.
BINGO CARDS. Certain Family members have said tons of these things to me. I would also add, from experience, “but you were such a happy child!”
[img: a 5x5 bingo card with ridiculous things people say to people with depression/depressed people.
Top row: “you need to exercise MOAR”, “Well, sometimes I feel depressed too!”, “Just smile!”, “Eat healthier!”, and “You are depressed because you didn’t do x”
Second row: “Stop trying to be a victim already”, “Remember, it’s just in your head”, “So much potential! (wasted)”, “You’ll get addicted to your medication if you take it!”, and “Sleep MOAR”
Third row: “Young lady [DORIAN: this is for women w/ depression, I guess…]”, “Get over it, some people have it harder than you”, “HAPPY SPACE!”, “Relaxation exercises/yoga”, and “Get a boyfriend”
Fourth row: “It can be ‘cured’”, “Positive thinking!”, “Drugs/alcohol can help”, “I’ve heard this method/thing/vitamin works!”, and “You need to lose weight”
Fifth row: “Get out of your bed/bedroom!”, “You’re intelligent, I’m sure you will get better soon”, “Socialise MOAR”, “You need to SAVE yourself from yourself”, and “Just ignore it. You’re thinking too much about it”.]
It’s still an exceptionally narrow scope of women, all primped and preened in the same way. The women may be slightly larger and curvier, but they are still operating within the same paradigm as the rest of the beauty industry.
And because it’s better that what we’ve had before or better than nothing, we’re SETTLING. We’re lapping it up like the grateful little lapdogs that we are. We’ve been conditioned to be so happy when the industry throws as a bone, and that’s a good thing for the patriarchy because that means we’re not seeing through it.
What I will need to see to accept that we really truly value diverse beauty is:
-A model in a wheelchair or somehow other not typical able bodied
-A fat woman - and no none of the women currently on the adverts are fat by any standard other than the impossibly prohibitive modelling industry - I’m talking 250-300lb and Yes, they can be sexy too
-A model with hairy legs or armpits
I particularly hate that even this argument takes us away from the important issue: we have traditionally been reduced to looks/appearance as women for too long. Stop making this the only issue, PLEASE. If we truly want to value and appreciate the diversity in people, we need to appreciate the ugly as much as we appreciate the beautiful. We need to realise that intelligence, kindness, humour, generosity, career, ambitions, success, skill, talent and a whole Host of other things should be more important than this one small thing.
If you are beautiful then there is absolutely no reason you shouldn’t feel good about yourself. And if you’re a beautiful fat person, then that should be appreciated too.
But where does that leave all the ugly people, both fat and thin? Do we not matter, are not important?
Second version including sizeism and cissexism which I originally intended to include but ended up leaving them out. How cisgender of me!
Credit to genderbitch for pointing this omission out.
(Source, General Forms on right).
New blog post up at http://nakedfaery.blogspot.com.
Details of correspondence with MP regarding the Equality Act 2010.
I swear to the Goddess the next person who says this in my presence is going to have their head ripped off by me.
Firstly, stop fucking using words like ‘mad’, ‘crazy’ and ‘insane’ to mean extreme. It’s ableist and extremely offensive to people with mental illness.
We’re learning more and more about diversity as a society (even if we’re ignoring a lot of what we learn). It’s becoming less and less acceptable to be a bigot. This might be a new thing, but there’s nothing ‘far out’ or extreme about it. It’s BASIC HUMAN DECENCY.
Ignore the term political correctness and focus on the intent, which is respect, which we ALL deserve. When you say you don’t want to be politically correct, you’re saying that all people who aren’t like you (which is probably the majority of the population) don’t matter.
ghostlove asked: What's your favourite book in the entire world and why?
Wow, this is a difficult one to answer. Since Lamictal killed my brain, I’ve stopped reading pretty much and now I’m on Lithium I’m trying to wake up a bit from my funk and read again.
Fiction wise I’d have to say either The Red Tent or A Thousand Splendid Suns.
Non fiction wise I’d say Fractured by Ruth Dee. It was an extremely triggering book for me. In a way though, it really hit me hard how I had to access my own pain and stop hiding from my past and from my illness.
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